HOWEVER, I was thankfully able to get this post together in time for Valentine's Day this year!
This creates unnecessary pressure, stress, and difficult surprises concerning the other person’s weaknesses or differences of opinions which surface in the future, and the challenge and need of working though the next two or three stages after marriage.
Because not enough time was allowed for significant crises and issues to arise before the two committed themselves to each other through engagement, the couple now discovers each other’s character flaws, different values and perspectives, weaknesses, etc after the engagement and/or marriage.
The time to discover these challenges and differences in each other is before both commit themselves for life; In other words, before engagement while there is still an incentive to be gained, and while there is time for adjustments and resolution of the issues before the many additional pressures that marriage brings are thrust upon them.
Unfortunately, many relationships prematurely move to engagement and, sometimes, even marriage while in the first or second stage.
The first phase of courtship is letting others know that you are present and available through a variety of means such as posture, clothing, facial expressions, movement, and other related non-verbal communications.
Similar to a peacock showing its feathers, this first stage of the courtship process is a complex come-hither dance that combines attention-getting behavior with still what Charles Darwin called 'submissive displays' - but most of us just call it flirting.
Since I wasn't able to make that happen, I had to wait a whole year to do this, but this time I shifted it for my blog and instead of sharing whole stories (which I may still do another time), I decided to feature singles/couples and ask them to give their tips for relationships.
So you'll see below that I have people of different ages, ethnic backgrounds, and relationship statuses (btw, all non-bloggers except me, hehe) sharing something they've learned about relationships.
Once the first phase of the courtship process is complete, the next stage is to watch for positive body language from others in close proximity.