My dating life is essentially the complete opposite of a fairytale.
I'm naturally a very talkative and outgoing person, which often seemed to scare men off, so I tried to change myself. I had only met him once, and had no idea what to expect. I told him I was nervous to meet him and had considered ditching, and he laughed. After proving to my date how bad I was at bowling, we sat down at a table for casual, awkward, first-date conversation.
I had been taught three crucial dating rules: lie, lie and lie some more. Maybe “faking it until you make it” wasn't cutting it anymore, if it ever was. So, with that in mind, I set out to create my own dating method — an extreme honesty method.1. We talked about our likes, dislikes, our jobs, what we saw ourselves doing in the next 10 years. Some of my best friends had never even seen my work because it was so personal to me.
It does not end with me on a date with 1995 Paul Rudd. As I drove to the bowling alley for the date, I repeated the rules over and over in my head, promising to myself I would follow through.
As a woman navigating her 20s, I've tried just about every means necessary to nab my Prince Charming, but they all seemed to end with me sitting on the floor of my room, scrolling through old text messages with my gal pals and complaining about why nothing I ever did seemed to work. After arriving, I met him in the parking lot, nearly shaking with nerves.
Even when the person you're talking to is being honest about all their basic physical characteristics, the lying happens in all that goes unsaid, what my friend Dr.
Brad Blanton calls the "most pernicious form of lying."So many guys are busy complaining to their friends privately about women they browse or even meet off these sites but they rarely tell the women their harsh critiques directly.
I'm forced to stare idly at the pretentious profile photos gazing back at me through my phone screen.”Back here again,” I sigh to myself, as my thumb begins the tedious and soul-destroying process of swiping back and forth.
So, what exactly should my dating profile sound like?
I told him I hated small talk, and instead craved something more, which intrigued him.