Additionally, you've got to hide from predators, steer clear of Alpha males and females looking for trouble, and not let other hunter-gatherer bands kill you: these are significant sticks.
But here's the key difference between carrots and sticks. Compared to carrots, sticks usually have more urgency and impact.
In fact, you lose your chill so infrequently that when you do, people know they’ve REALLY crossed a line.
You know what you want and you’re not afraid to go after it, no matter what it takes.
For most of my life, I freely gave my power away to anyone who wanted it.
Actually, even if you didn’t want it, I was happy to give it to you anyway.
How many people have decided not to talk to the cute girl in the room because they’ve convinced themselves that girls like her would never consider talking to guys like them?
How many people avoid going to parties and social gatherings because they believe that everyone at the party is going to harshly judge them and/or not like them? The people who are intimidating you are not better than you. They poop and fart just like the rest of us (and it stinks too.) In fact, they’re probably just like you in more ways than you could ever imagine.much more powerful than we think, and the key to our happiness is to consistently remember that fact. How often do we give away our power by allowing our insecurities to create insane stories in our mind about other people?I believe that in most cases, the feeling of intimidation has nothing to do with the person who intimidates us. How many people experience near-paralyzing fear and nervousness when they’re introduced to the CEO of their company (or any other high-profile person) because they believe that they’re not good enough to be communicating with her?Our ancestors had to make a critical decision many times a day: approach a reward or avoid a hazard - pursue a carrot or duck a stick. Imagine being a hominid in Africa a million years ago, living in a small band.To pass on your genes, you've got to find food, have sex, and cooperate with others to help the band's children (particularly yours) to have children of their own: these are big carrots in the Serengeti.That’s why I talk about the dangers of living a fear-controlled life so often on this blog (like here, here and here for starters.)While that’s true, there’s one form of fear that I haven’t really addressed up until this point, and it actually might be the most common form of fear that exists. Or more specifically, Before I dive in, a quick disclaimer–I’m not a psychiatrist (obviously), so if you have a legitimate full-blown phobia of other people, then this blog post definitely isn’t for you.