Here is Valerie's story: I was on an online dating site and began chatting with a guy." I wasn't sure what to say because he wasn't the cutest guy I had ever seen, so I just kind of laughed it off and said "let's go inside, I think they are open now." I was hoping that we could have a glass of wine and talk a little and see if there was a connection. When meeting up with a guy from a dating site, is your game plan different than if you'd been introduced by a friend? Sign up for Glamour.com's Style Tips of the Week and Beauty Tip of the Day newsletters! I asked for my stuff to go, he paid the check, and as I was driving as fast as I could to get outta there he texted me saying "don't worry, I'll never talk to you again." He made me feel like I had just broken his heart because I didn't fall instantly in love with him after knowing him for less than a day.
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Hello, In this weeks topic we will be discussing "intensity and passion" something that seems to be lacking on POF these days.
While this person may blame the other person for the problems, or claim that he or she has just never met the "right" person, it always takes two to create relationship problems. But, if someone does not care about their children, then they likely have a deep problem with caring about themselves or others. The person is not open to learning from relationship conflict.
Unless this person has had a good amount of therapy and personal growth since the last relationship, a series of broken relationships or marriages may indicate that he or she doesn't know how to have a loving relationship. The person was abused as a child and has not had therapy or done sufficient inner healing work. Without an openness to learning about themselves and you when there is conflict, there is no way to resolve conflict. The person participates in addictions that are unacceptable to you -- smoking, drinking, drugs, addictive eating, gambling, TV and so on.
Below is a list of some of the red flags I've discovered. Some of these items might not be deal-breakers for you; if the issue is okay with you, then there is no problem. See if you can identify personally with any of these red flags. The person comes on strong at the beginning of the relationship, and tells you exactly what you want to hear. Narcissists can be very intense in their pursuit, and many of them have learned exactly what to say to pull you in, such as, "I've never felt as connected with anyone else as I feel with you," or "You are the most amazing person I've ever met.
I can see that no one has ever really seen you." For many narcissists, the pursuit is everything and once they have you hooked, they are either off to another pursuit, or they become more and more demanding of you. The person becomes angry, critical or withdrawn if you say no. Narcissists need constant attention and often become very upset and punishing if you don't give them what they want. The person becomes logical and tries to talk you out of your feelings or your experience.
A lot of people I meet are really passive, non- aggressive, the females seem to be really laid back, cautious and afraid of any sort of intensity.. Often people would throw phrases like "he is too much" what does that mean, too much "of what" exactly? Maybe it is the girls who should stop being so laid back and lazy, and step up their intensity to match the guys.. What does intensity mean to you and how do you deal with it?
I thought this thread was suppose to be in the ask a girl section. I will try to answer your question since women aren't on the internet at this hour. Sounds scary to me though, I have my running shoes on just in case I run into one.
It was already kind of awkward just meeting for the first time, but instead of casual conversation he said "well, what do you think? I think, in the heat of the moment, I would have shot the eager beaver a super snarky text back. Do you have a Dating FAIL story you'd like to share? More stories of guys behaving badly…More Ways to Get Glamour You could win ,000 just for registering or logging in to Glamour.com!