This, the "I love you," and the actual marriage proposal are The Three Big Uncomfortable Maybe-I-Am-Completely-and-Embarrassingly-Misreading-This-Situation Moments for a guy.
Dave talks about the importance of discussing money before getting married.
But what about one step before that: How do you talk about it when you’re still dating?
Defining the relationship is going to be unique to each couple because it depends on what each partner is looking for and whether having an official title is important.
The only rule is to never assume exclusivity, even when you’re sexually active.
Dating someone does not yet have the same long-term outlook as being married or engaged, but it’s a big step.
When you start to discuss bigger matters with the person you are dating, you are in essence letting them know that you are thinking further down the road.
Once you’ve spent some time getting a better feel of how they view the small stuff, gradually increase the depth and scope of the conversation topics to things like big purchases, lifestyles, saving and retirement.
Maybe talk about how your family viewed money or what you’d do if you had a million dollars.
Money is a heavy topic, so give yourself some time to get deeper into the courtship.
Talk about whether or not going to dinner tonight fits within your budget, for example.
There are two types of guys in this world: the ones who want you to be their girlfriend and the ones who don't but naively think that's what they're supposed to do. There is something incredibly straight-forward and refreshing for a guy about not having to broach this topic himself. Maybe you're afraid of freaking him out if he's not "there" yet. If you've been casual for a while and the interactions are more than just hooking up after 1 a.m., my bet is that he's already thinking it and just hasn't gotten up the nerve to ask you yet.