What explains the edge military guys have when it comes to online dating? Among our own audiences at Spouse X events, meeting online is always in the top three ways military folks find a mate. We are also always getting letters from women who “met” a military guy online who turns out to be a scammer begging them for money. But for military guys to have an actual advantage before other occupations? Haven’t those women seen the articles about service members on foodstamps? Don’t they get that for every passionate, romantic, picture-worthy homecoming kiss there are (on average) 180 days in which the only lips that touch your own smell like the inside of a sippy cup?? In one study, military men were second in preference only to lawyers. (In case you are interested, women who list themselves as being in law enforcement or the military are among the least successful in the online dating game—which probably tells you something important about their potential partners.) What do these online women think they are getting when they click open the military package? Willing to commit to a job for at least four years at a time.
When it comes to the research, you might be surprised to find that men in uniform really do have kind of an edge when it comes to finding a mate on the Internet. They received an above average number of first contact e- mails, keywords, and were browsed more often than men in other occupations.
A man calling himself "John" messaged her and through daily phone calls and messages on Facebook, he gained her trust.
In a typical con, the perpetrator will spend weeks or even months building up a romantic relationship with a victim through e-mails, texts or phone calls, before eventually asking for money.
And many of the scammers aren't even in the United States.
Or that they were interested in the status implied by medals, ribbons and shiny brass buttons. I wonder if the advantage military men have in online dating is something more prosaic.
Last weekend at a Dining Out, one third of the couples at our table met each other online. If you and your service member met online, did you give them an edge because they were military?
That’s particularly true if they’ve been through difficult circumstances, such as divorce, losing a job, serious illness and other major losses, says Doug Shadel, a fraud researcher and director of AARP Washington.
It’s as if “their immune system to fraud” is weakened, Shadel said."In the process of going back and forth, a scammer is going to try to figure out what makes a person tick, what their vulnerable spots are," said Jenny Shearer, an FBI spokeswoman."Because a victim has legitimate feelings, they might be inclined to offer financial support for this person." For Best, it all started when she signed up for a free online dating site called mingle2.Romance scams cost nearly 5,900 victims more than .7 million last year, according to the Internet Crime Complaint Center.And state and federal agencies have shut down several large romance scams in recent months, including a case in which two South Africans and a Canadian were extradited to the U. on charges of bilking hundreds of Americans of millions of dollars through romance scams and other financial fraud schemes.At Adult he is 5-11 and weighs a worrisome 85 pounds. “The fact that people decided to use my image for their own personal gain, it felt like I was violated,” Chandler told me last week.