And if you can’t grow together, you’ll eventually grow apart, which means faking agreement plants the seeds for a breakup. You never have to do that unpleasant thing called complaining, or risk hurting your partner’s feelings. In this way, we effectively shut down meaningful relationship dialogue.
The pitfalls of availability If you are too available, you may seem needy, like you don’t have a life of your own—which may put you at risk for being taken for granted.
Usually, this isn’t very hard to discover, because there are a LOT of signs that you’re way too available. You should not be texting back if you’re in the shower. It’s okay to reply right away if you’re not busy with anything, but if you’re in the middle of getting your teeth cleaned at the dentist and have to spit on your hygienist in order to communicate, you’ve got issues. The second you see a missed call because you were in a meeting or even just taking a quick nap, do you call back and immediately start apologizing and explaining yourself?
Take it from me: read these signs and change them ASAP—if you want to make something work. If you’re constantly saying yes to everything your new squeeze asks or wants to do, then you’re too available. Don’t you just want to curl up on the couch and watch a movie, instead of going to some lame car show? Honestly, this sounds more desperate than you being nice.
In other words, don’t be ready to have his babies after date 3. So, Halle Kaye Halle Kaye is the author of the insightful, inspirational and hilarious dating guide for women Maybe He's Just an Asshole: Ditch Denial, Embrace Your Worth, and Find True Love!
What every man needs to know about the heart and mind of women. Besides, aren’t these the qualities spelled out on every woman’s dating ‘List?
In the initial stage of a relationship there are many men who try really hard to make women happy.
In fact, they often bend over backwards to accomplish this task.
It’s the core of learned conduct, established through positive and negative reinforcement, and the words, “Be nice,” offered with an encouraging smile and the stern warning of a wagging finger, precede nearly every social encounter. We’re constantly admonished to be respectful to others, but we’re rarely urged to assert our own rights, especially if they conflict with the desires of others, unless of course those desires are hurtful to us.
“Be nice.”We’re constantly admonished to be respectful to others, but we’re rarely urged to assert our own rights, especially if they conflict with the desires of others, unless of course those desires are hurtful to us.
If and when they enter into a deeper level of commitment, they often take things a step further.
They begin to put their partner ahead of everyone and everything else in their lives.
Instead, say a quick, “Oh sorry, what did you need?