You’re late for appointments, if you even remember that you have them. You say things without thinking or tune out during important conversations. And still, adults with ADHD are completely capable of happy, fulfilling marriages.
It’s complex, it’s hard, it’s beautiful, it’s not impossible. The entwined threads can either be sturdy or frayed.
Some people don’t even know they have ADHD until they’re adults. That’s one reason why they might get frustrated with you. Household chores can be a challenge when you have adult ADHD. Your family members may be doing more than their fair share of keeping the household running smoothly. ''You never do what you say you’re going to do.'' You meant it when you said you’d get to your son’s basketball game by p.m. But then you got distracted at work, and your cell phone rang, and then you realized you needed to pick up the dry cleaning.
The good news is that you can turn these problems around.
You can build a healthier, happier partnership by learning about the role ADHD plays in your relationship and how both of you can choose more positive and productive ways to respond to challenges and communicate with each other.
Many people who suffer from ADHD report they have difficulty managing relationships and some researchers say that the divorce rate is nearly twice as high for those with ADHD.
Issues with organization, time-management, paying attention and figuring out where and how to meet new people can all present difficulties to people who have ADHD. However, with the right mindset and coping tools, many people find they can navigate dating sites, first dates and building strong relationships which take into account their issues and challenges.
Navigating dating and relationships can sometimes be challenging.
When you add ADHD into the mix the challenges can intensify.
Intensity, being romantic and having the ability to think creatively are all sides to ADHD which can positively add to mutual dating experiences.
With time and patience, other areas which might cause challenges – such as inconsistency or distractibility can be managed, too.
The rope stays strong and supportive as you both reach and climb upward together. Once you accept your own flaws, you will think differently about your partner’s imperfections.
But with too much stress the threads can become twisted and frayed, the rope weakens and gradually your relationship starts to fall apart. People with ADHD have a few more challenges than most. We are human; all of us are struggling through life individually, yet together.
Does your wife say she feels like you’re just one more child in the house?