He started getting hundreds of questions from widows and widowers who needed advice on how to navigate their way through their own grief—and how to start dating.
Abel ended up writing six books on the topic, including how he overcame the worst time in his life and became an expert on the topic of widowers.
“Well I was widowed when I was 26 years old, my wife took her own life.
I started a blog at the time about what I was going through and women who dated widowers started asking me questions.
Unfortunately, there really are scam artists out there and we need to be alert on behalf of our elderly loved ones.
Have an open discussion with your parent about things that have changed since the last time they were single.
Several families have expressed to the in-home caregivers at Home Helpers a concern that a widowed parent entering into a romantic relationship may be setting themselves up to go straight into caring for another aging and ailing partner.
That’s a valid concern, but seniors have done a lot of living and know where they are in their lives.
I had no clue, I was still navigating the dating waters,” Abel says.
“I ended up remarrying 15 months after my late wife died, but the questions still kept coming in, so I wrote the books.” Abel says that it’s usually widowers (men) who start dating before they are ready to.
You may very well be enjoying a casual, lively social life with a person who is fun to be around, but with whom you simply don't imagine a future.